Happenings..

Its been a very eventful past few months.. and i would take this oppotunity to say a silent prayer to two recently departed beloved ones.. namely my grandfather Mr Anggamuthu and Devi's Grandfather Mr Noel Phillips, two men who led very distinct lives but had certain similiar characteristics...

My own Grand-dad was 73 wen he departed, he left us because of cancer. A smoker since 16 and heavy drinker, its easy to point the finger at those two causes that led to his demise.. everyone has said b4 tt u will only miss a person wen he has left u.. tt does seem to be true..

I was never close to my grandfather but i made sure that i was with him during his last days as often as possible.. its a pity that his children didnt really care much abt their old man.. the time they came to visit him in hospital during his sickness was the first time they saw him in probably months.. he may have been crude and all in his mannerisms but its a pity tat he left without striking a huge lottery which he said he wud have wanted to give to all his 5 children equally.. to children who didnt do much for their father in his last days.. neither did i as a grandson..

the funeral proceedings were a comedy of sorts at certain stages.. constant quarrels, finger pointing, all of which have no place when we are sending someone off on their final journey.. it is however an experience i will not forget at all..

I had only ever seen and talked to him less than 5 times in total but during those times, Mr Noel Phillips has only left me with one impression; he is a true gentleman to the very word. A fit 83 year old who spoke perfect english whom though i thought was quite forbiddin during our first encounter but how wrong i was. I still recall his quick jolt out of his bed and warm handshake to me when i visited him in hospital.

Both these men wanted the best for their children and their kids as well. Whether they meant it for their fathers is another question that will never be answered.

Its my personal opinion that despite the closeness (or the lack of it) that we feel towards a person, it is essential to extract the useful aspects of their lives and characters. When we die.. we must make sure that we have left our mark in someone who is still living.. such as my grandfather in his positive outlook twds life (never till the end did he know his illness) and for Mr Phillips' gentlemanliness.. Something that i would do well to inculcate into my own life..

peace be to them..... Om and Amen..